Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is a form of psychotherapy that helps people understand how their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are related. It can be helpful for children who are experiencing problems such as aggression, defiance, anxiety, or depression. The model used in CBT is called the ABCD model, is a framework for understanding how CBT can help children with behavior problems.
What is ABCD model?
A= activating event, B= belief system, C= consequences, D= desired outcome.
The A in the ABCD model stands for activating event. This is the event that happens right before the behavior problem occurs. The B in the model stands for belief system. This is what the child believes about themselves, others, and the world around them. The C in the model stands for consequences. These are the results of the child’s behavior problem. The D in the model stands for disputing irrational beliefs. This is where CBT helps to change how a child thinks about themselves, others, and their environment.
One of the main goals of CBT is to help children learn how to identify and change unhelpful thoughts and beliefs that may be contributing to their behavioral problems.
For example, the activating event could be something like not being able to play video games because they have to do their homework. The belief system might be that doing their homework is pointless and they will never get good grades. The consequences could be feeling like they are a bad person, getting in trouble with their parents, or feeling angry and frustrated.
Another example, a child who struggles with aggression may believe that it is necessary to be aggressive in order to be successful or liked by others. CBT can help this child learn more adaptive ways to think about themselves and others, which can lead to improved behavior.
How can I use CBT techniques at home with my child?
Play CBT games: An enjoyable way to use CBT with children is through card and board games. These games help children learn how to manage their emotions and solve problems. They also provide a fun and safe environment for children to express themselves. CBT therapy games can be used by therapists or parents at home to help children with a variety of issues, including anger management, social skills, anxiety, and ADHD.
Cognitive restructuring or reframing: One way to help your child behave with CBT is to help them reframe situations. This means helping them see things in a different light. You can do this by asking questions such as “What could you have done differently?” or “What is another way of looking at this situation?” You can also help your child practice problem-solving skills. This involves helping them come up with solutions to problems they are facing.
Relaxation techniques: One of the goals of CBT is to help children learn relaxation techniques that can be used when they feel overwhelmed or upset. Some examples of relaxation techniques include deep breathing exercises, visualization exercises, and muscle relaxation exercises.
Role Playing: Helps your child imagine they are in a particular situation, and then asks them how they would usually behave in that situation. You can also ask the child how they want to behave instead. This helps the child learn how to deal with difficult situations in a more positive way. This helps your child to learn how to handle difficult situations in a safe and controlled environment.
Daily journal: If your child prefers to express their feelings by writing, you can have your child keep a journal in which they write about their thoughts and feelings. In the journal, the child records what made them feel good or bad, what they did, and how they coped with the situation. This helps the child become more aware of their thoughts and feelings, and how these affect their behavior. The journal can also be used to track progress and identify patterns.
In conclusion, by using the CBT model with your child, you can help improve behavior problems, remember to be patient and consistent with your child, and provide positive reinforcement when they display desired behaviors. Lastly, if you need more help or guidance in using the CBT model, please seek professional support.